Introducing Rebecca Faye Smith Galli, Author of Rethinking Possible: A Memoir of Resilience

Meet Rebecca Faye Smith Galli, the author of Rethinking Possible (She Writes Press, June 2017), a memoir that is Galli’s response to living in the wake of extraordinary losses.

Becky (I need to call her by the name I know her by) and I met a few years ago in writing workshops in the Stanford University online writing certificate program where we were cohorts in the creative nonfiction track. In class and in her column and blog, Becky inspires. Although I have read parts of Becky’s story, I am eager to read Rethinking Possible and to learn more about Becky’s unique life and her strength and determination.

Here is a brief bio from Rethinking Possible‘s press kit that sums up why Becky is perfectly positioned to write a story about extraordinary loss, grief, and resilience.

Rebecca Faye Smith Galli was born into a family
that valued the power of having a plan. Her 1960s
southern upbringing was idyllic—even enviable. But
life does not always go according to plan, and when
her 17-year-old brother died in a waterskiing accident,
the slow unraveling of her perfect family began.
There was her son’s degenerative, undiagnosed
disease and subsequent death; her daughter’s autism
diagnosis; her separation; and then, nine days after
the divorce was final, the onset of the transverse
myelitis that would leave Galli paralyzed from the
waist down. Despite such devastating tragedy, Galli
maintained her belief in family, in faith, in loving
unconditionally, and in learning to not only accept,
but also embrace a life that had veered down a path
far different from the one she had envisioned.

Look at that sunny smile on Becky’s face. And those gold boots! Wowza!

I pre-ordered Becky’s book a couple of months ago, but Friday Amazon wrote and asked me if I still wanted it. UM, YES!!!! So I hope it will be arriving soon! In the meantime, I asked Becky some questions that had been on my mind while she’s been working on the book.

*Writing a memoir means that the writer has to put herself back into the events she is writing about. Many writers find this very challenging emotionally. As you wrote about so many losses that you have experienced, did you consciously protect yourself in some way during the writing process? How did you cope with reliving the losses?

You are so right. The pain was intense, often relived more than once through the edits. Two things helped me:

 Structure: When I wrote about deep loss in the early stages, I would block off two to three days on my calendar and binge write. I prepared healthy meals ahead (tuna salad, grilled chicken, and tons of boiled eggs), stocked up on my favorite not-so-healthy snacks (Lance cheese crackers, Reese’s® peanut butter cups, and peanut M&M’s), and made sure I had plenty of water, coffee, and green tea. I took breaks, often setting alarms to make sure I got out of the house to walk the dog, grab the mail, or sit on the deck for a change of scenery.

Support: My sister was my anchor. She knew my writing schedule and exactly what I was writing about each day. I would check in with her in the morning and then ask her to call me at the end of the day. She would often help me remember details or give me her point of view about the same scene. Counting on her call and hearing her voice helped me time-block the intensity. It’s amazing what we can endure when we know it is for a finite period of time.


*You and I met in the writing program at Stanford. We learned that memoir is both the retelling of the experience and the reflection upon that experience: “What does it mean to me? What did I learn from it? How did it shape who I am today?” So how does reflection figure into Rethinking Possible? What form does it take and how much a part of the book is it?

Reflection is key to the book; in fact, it is baked in its message of “rethinking possible.” Through the years, I’d found comfort and inspiration from many sources so I decided to begin each chapter with a quote, inviting reflection relevant to the chapter’s topic.

Then, the reader witnesses the transformation of “character Becky” through her own self-reflection. After each loss, she reacts, revolts, and is unwilling to accept the unwanted realities about herself or the circumstances that she is facing. She was raised to be a winner, a competitor. She did not like to lose. Through each challenge, the reader sees her stubbornness, her self-absorption, even her arrogant self-righteousness. They also see her pain, her bold questioning, and unvarnished self-doubts:

Why me?

Why my brother?

Why my child?

Why my divorce?

Have I become unlovable?

Yet, she does not give up.

Her stubbornness becomes a steadfast determination as she pursues the closely-knit family life she experienced before her brother’s death. Through this honest self-reflection she discovers how to rethink what’s possible, accepting not only the circumstance, but what she has learned about herself.

Without reflection, an assessment of “what is” based on “what was,” we limit our perspective, our capacity to grow, and our ability to fully engage in “rethinking” what is possible.


*Did you do any research for writing your book? Since it’s your own story you are telling, did it all come “from your head,” or was it necessary to read and look up information?

I relied heavily on my father’s book, Sit Down, God. . . I’m Angry for the details about my brother’s death. His vivid descriptions time-warped me back to the scene, but my memory had to kick in to recall my twenty-year-old mindset. After Matthew’s seizures, I began keeping a journal. It was the only way I could capture my spinning thoughts and put them to rest. Then in 1997, six months after my paralysis, a friend introduced me to the latest craze—the internet. Shortly after that, I reconnected with a high school friend through email who wanted an update on my life and my adjustments to paralysis. Our exchanges created an email journal that documented nearly twenty years of experiences and reflections and were the basis for my newspaper column career. Still, I googled for details like the make/model of car we loaded up and packed for vacation when I was six years old, song lyrics, and the exact kind of workout gear I sported in 1981.


*Through reading your thought-provoking columns and blog, I see you as a woman of strong Christian faith who was very influenced by her pastor father. Do you think your book speaks to others who have experienced losses who are not themselves religious or who come from other religious traditions?

Great question! I do! The philosophy that, “Life can be good, no matter what,” is based on a commitment to find the good in our circumstance. Again, that takes tremendous and sustained effort. For me, my faith is my fuel. My belief system sustains me, grounds me, and gives me a confidence that there will always be something to hope for. However, no matter what your belief system, we must first accept our circumstance before we can “rethink” what is possible in it. Resilient living depends on it.


*Do you have hopes or goals for what readers will take away from reading Rethinking Possible? 

I hope Rethinking Possible will offer encouragement and hope to those who have loved deeply and lost dearly. At its core, I think resilience translates into a foundation of hope. Yet hope is a tricky emotion. It can be wonderfully sustaining, but it can also be exhausting.

In my book, I talk about the benefit of pursuing parallel paths after loss, especially when the future is uncertain. Sometimes it’s helpful to pursue hope and reality at the same time. Often what we hope for just isn’t possible. The key to resilience, at least for me, is to temper hope with reality. In essence, resilience is a process of constantly rethinking what is possible after we have accepted a new reality.

I truly believe that life can be good, no matter what. However, “can” is the most important word. After significant losses, it often takes tremendous and sustained effort to find hope within a newly-defined reality. After reading Rethinking Possible, I’d love for the reader to feel like it’s worth the effort.


From what I have read of Becky’s writing, the reader will definitely feel that it’s worth the effort to read Rethinking Possible.

You can join Becky for her Thoughtful Thursdays where she shares what’s inspired her to stay positive that week.

She’s on social media as @chairwriter.

Rethinking Possible can be ordered on Kindle right now and the paperback will ship starting on June 9.




Filed under #writerlife, Book promotion, Books, Inspiration, Memoir, Memoir writing theory, Research and prep for writing, Writing, Writing Talk

33 responses to “Introducing Rebecca Faye Smith Galli, Author of Rethinking Possible: A Memoir of Resilience

  1. Excellent interview of an amazing woman! I can see why you resonated with her. Galli is an inspiration and you’ve captured why.
    I have a friend who’s written about her son’s brain injury and “climbing back” when all seemed lost. I’ll tell her about Galli’s story.

    • Becky is truly amazing. I’ve learned a lot from reading her columns. Yes, please pass the word about Rethinking Possible!! Thank you, Elaine. I am enjoying every word of All the Wrong Places. I’m sorry I am such a slow reader these days, but it’s because the minute I hit the couch I tend to fall asleep. Your book is keeping me up past my “bedtime!”

    • I LOVED All the Wrong Places, Elaine, and can’t wait to share about it here!

  2. As soon as I saw Becky’s smile in that first photograph, I recognised a fellow survivor. Although my tragedies were of a different order and I do not believe in God, I have come to the same conclusions; it is why my parting comment on every post is ‘Take care and keep laughing’. Becky’s character and her memoir sound inspiring, to say the least, and you have provided an excellent interview, Luanne, for which much thanks. The book is now on my list.

  3. Fantastic interview! Thanks so much for introducing us to Becky and her memoir. “My faith is my fuel.” Yes! I couldn’t run without it.

    • I think your comment will be well understood by Becky, Jill! She was a wonderful interview subject and is such a supportive and inspiring friend.

  4. Terrific interview of a remarkable human being. I think her comments about protecting herself as she wrote are worth keeping in mind for all writers of difficult memories. Really valuable advice. Thanks, Luanne.

    • Right? I so agree! Becky is fabulous. I’m so blessed to have met Becky through the Stanford program. Which is now defunct, by the way. They still have fiction and maybe poetry, but not creative nonfiction. Is that not crazy?

  5. Great interview, Luanne. Becky sounds like an amazing woman. With all that she’s gone through, she still has that gorgeous, heart-filling smile! Her memoir indeed sounds inspiring. I really like this comment from her: “It’s amazing what we can endure when we know it is for a finite period of time.”

    • Her smile is beautiful! I got my book!!!!!!! So I will report on it. I just finished Elaine Pinkerton’s suspenseful novel All the Wrong Places and will start Becky’s book! Then it’s Kevin’s and all the other ones on my list yikes!

  6. Brilliant interview and an incredible woman.. Inspiring and motivating.

  7. A wonderful interview, Luanne. Becky is not only courageous and tenacoius, her positive spirit oozes through her words – truly inspiring. 😀

    • Annika, I agree that Becky is such a positive person. She also teaches what her dad taught her. My favorite that I have heard from her is “make it a good day” showing us that we have the power to make it that way.

  8. Pingback: Smorgasbord Blogger Daily – Tuesday 6th June 2017 – Darlene Foster, Vashti Quiroz-Vega with Olga Nunez Miret, Geoff Le Pard and Luanne Castle | Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life

  9. What an incredible story, and incredible person! I am buying her book as soon as I leave this spot! Just want to add that I especially loved her words, “It’s amazing what we can endure when we know it is for a finite period of time.” It reminds my of my late beloved mother’s favourite saying, “This too shall pass.” And it always does… Thank you for this introduction to Becky!

    • Enjoy, Ellie! Mine just came! I can’t wait to read it. I agree that that saying has a lot of power. My favorite that I’ve heard from her comes from her father. I just wrote it to Annika above. “Make it a good day.” Rather than just wishing one on your friend, show that we can take an active role in making it so!

  10. Such an inspiring woman. And what strength of will as well as character. Outstanding post, Luanne. Thank you for sharing Becky’s remarkable story ♥

  11. Love this inside look into her process. Thanks for the interview, Luanne!

    • It was very helpful to me. Of course, Becky is also inspiring in that her drug of choice isn’t Mountain Dew (you know me!), but is green tea and coffee. I know I need to change! At least I am drinking more Tazo Zen green tea, which is my favorite, but more of a treat than regular tea.

  12. Phenomena. Such an inspiring interview. I look forward to reading the book.

  13. Luanne, a terrific interview and post about an inspiring woman.

Leave a Reply to Luanne Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.